Grief and Loss

"Loss is a jagged pill, and grief, a constant companion in varying degrees." Stephanie D. Zimmerman My last post was ~2 weeks ago in response to the death of my cousin, Sherry. This past Sunday, I learned that my uncle Red married 50+ years to my aunt Jeanie, who passed away 2 years ago, had … Continue reading Grief and Loss

every day, many times a day kind of hugs

From the archives of my password-protected personal blogs: You may or may not be familiar with Gary Chapman's love language books. If you are not and you are a parent, I highly recommend them to you. I currently refer to The 5 Love Languages of Teens: The Secret to Loving Teenagers Effectively given that our … Continue reading every day, many times a day kind of hugs

Med Schedules & Time Zones

There are lots of things to consider when you're not in 'your Kansas' anymore; med schedules & time zones being 2 of them for me. As a heart transplant recipient, I will take anti-rejection medications every 12 hours sharp for the rest of my life. It's not a big deal; it's become part of my … Continue reading Med Schedules & Time Zones

One Step

"A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." ~Lao Tzu I glanced at the date today and remembered that on this date 11 years ago, I began a journey by taking a single step literally 61 days after my heart transplant. It was a milestone, a red letter, write home about it kind … Continue reading One Step

What’s It Like?

It's not uncommon that I am asked: "what's it like to have someone else's heart beating inside your chest". As you can imagine this isn't a "hi, how are you?" type of question where you reflexively answer "I'm great; you?". No, the answer to this question is multi-faceted and quite complex involving the heart, body, … Continue reading What’s It Like?

What’s Your Date?

I'm a little quirky when it comes to dates. I can't forget them: the good, the bad, or the ugly. Believe me, I've tried. Last December, I wrote Anniversaries: Do They Serve You OR Hurt You? as I was struggling to stay present in the moments of my life because I was remembering (vividly); events … Continue reading What’s Your Date?

National Cancer Survivors Day

It was noon before I realized that today is National Cancer Survivors Day and I thought I might want to take my fingers to the keyboard to hammer out some thoughts, reflections, hopes for the future. I have officially lived 40 years beyond what my parents were told to expect; they were told 6 months … Continue reading National Cancer Survivors Day

Angels Among Us

Warning: this post will make you smile and it may make you cry. I'd like to share an encounter I had as my heart was beginning to fail. I was headed to a cardiology appointment one January day. I parked the car, hopped out, locked the doors and headed towards the medical complex. I made … Continue reading Angels Among Us

Cancer: 10 Things You Can Do to Help

Being diagnosed with cancer shakes even the strongest individuals to the core as uncertainty is immediately injected in one's world and life will never be the same. Your life becomes divided between B.C. and A.C. (Before Cancer and After Cancer). There are, however, things you, family, friends, and friends of friends can do to make … Continue reading Cancer: 10 Things You Can Do to Help

Limits, Boundary Lines

I am human; therefore, I get frustrated, disappointed, angry. Today, I was a little bit of all 3 as I set out to plan a day of ziplining for me and my beloved when we are in Maui this summer celebrating 25 years of the thick and thin that is marriage. Haleakala, Kaanapali, oh my: … Continue reading Limits, Boundary Lines